Hi Alyssa,
I would contact Abrazo. The girls there can help you with talking to your mom about adoption. We adopted our little girl almost three years ago. Our birthmom's Mother was very against adoption of any kind for her granddaughter. Abrazo invited her to come to the birthparent support group. After the meeting Abrazo sat down with her to help answer ALL the questions that she had about open adoption. My husband and I were matched a week later with our wonderful birthmom.
I can't say that our daughter's birthgrandmother was ever thrilled about the fact that her grandbaby was going to be adopted and raised in TN, but she has come to see that Grace Ann is loved and taken care of(spoiled ).
I hope you connact Abrazo and let them help you. They are wonderful!
You will be in my prayers.
Melissa
P.S. I am glad that you are safe and sound and away from Rita's path.