Prayers for a Baby
Here at Abrazo, we are lifting prayers for a baby, and we hope you’ll join us.
As his mother had cautioned us, the baby boy she birthed unexpectedly this week has a broken heart.
After getting a devastating prenatal diagnosis, she had concluded he “was not meant to be,” and she’d originally sought a late-term abortion.
Her hope was to spare him the pain of a life filled with hardship, hard as that decision was for her, being a loving parent already.
However, in Texas, abortions after 20 weeks are hard to find– and even harder to pay for. She couldn’t come up with a feasible plan, so she elected to continue the pregnancy and plan for adoption, instead.
The baby’s father knew of the pregnancy, but has had no involvement since the couple parted ways.
The baby’s mother is raising another young child on a fast food worker’s salary, thus parenting another child (especially with special needs) at this point in her life is not an option, she says.
She has no living parents, and no family members in a position to help.
She learned of Abrazo through an online search, and for weeks, we have been seeking a special needs family for the baby boy she was expecting next month.
However, he was born early, with complex congenital heart defects, and is expected to undergo several surgeries which will require him to be in the hospital for at least the first half year of his life.
The hospital is applying to get him his own Medicaid coverage, to offset the medical bills that are already accruing daily.
He may qualify for additional assistance, such as SSI and nonrecurrent adoption subidies, as well.
Special Needs Adoptions
But what he needs most is a loving family who can be there for him, to nurture him and love on him and be his everything… and despite the overwhelming numbers of couples seeking to adopt in the US these days, adoptive families for medically-fragile infants are hard to come by. (Note: stock photo.)
It’s easy to understand why, of course. Most adopting couples have endured great disappointments, hardship and personal tragedy in the course of infertility treatments and the fears that come with adopting a child with a complicated diagnosis seem too daunting a prospect.
Yet if adoption in its purest form is about providing homes for children who need them most, and if we truly believe in advocating for women who choose life instead of choosing abortion, then surely this tiny boy deserves to have an adoptive family to call his own?
As an adoption agency, Abrazo has long had a reputation for being the “patron saint of hopeless cases” and has always taken on the kind of cases that other agencies quickly refer elsewhere.
Over the past two decades, Abrazo (through the grace of God and the kindness of our supporters) has been able to place babies with Down Syndrome, and babies who were HIV positive. We have placed infants with catastrophic brain injuries and heart defects and cerebral palsy and other disabilities.
We have also sometimes helped parents who had intended to place instead find the courage and resources to parent, themselves.
Not everyone is qualified to become a special needs family; we know this. Yet by the same token, not everyone who thinks all they’re prepared to love is a healthy newborn is truly as limited as they think they are?
How You Can Help
If you know of a homestudied family who is prepared for special needs adoption and open to a hypoglycemic Anglo-Caucasian male newborn with complex CHD, HLHS and abdominal situs inversus, please have them forward their current homestudy to firstname.lastname@example.org for consideration.
There are big decisions to be made for this little baby boy– some of which cannot be made until or unless somebody steps forward and agrees to be his parent(s).
Until then, he doesn’t even have a name to call his own.
Please keep this baby boy without a name in your prayers. Pray for him, for his birthparents, and for his medical team. Pray for the adoption agency that is trying to find him a loving home.
Please pray for whomever it is that is meant to be his family. They’re out there, somewhere.
And hopefully, as they are saying their prayers for a baby, they will be led to this child, who truly needs them just as much as they need him.