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  1. Baby Announcements 2017

    Congratulations! I'm excited to read this news!
  2. Againers Needed!

    Does this mean you'll be there?!! That would be great! Yay! Jump on board!
  3. A Birth Grandmother's Role

    I can't believe your sweet granddaughter is in Kindergarten already! Hope she has an amazing year!
  4. Baby Announcements 2014

    Congratulations to the newest Abrazo family!
  5. In Memoriam

    He was a very nice man and such an important part of so many of our adoption journeys. My sympathies to those who loved him...including the Abrazo chicks.
  6. Baby Announcements 2014

    Congratulations! I'm so happy for you guys!
  7. A Birth Grandmother's Role

    You've gotten me curious. Hoping it was a good speechless, and not a bad speechless!
  8. Baby Announcements 2014

    Congratulations Ben and Lena! I look forward to meeting your son!
  9. Baby Announcements 2014

    Congratulations! Welcome to the wonderful world of diapers, sweet baby sounds, and sleepless nights!
  10. Baby Announcements 2013

    Congratulations on this unexpected blessing!!
  11. Open Adoption

    Thanks for you feedback, guys. Hannah, I can relate to much of what you wrote. From conversations with you to what you've shared on the forum, I know we are on the same page. I think learning about the "negatives" of adoption have definitely made me more sympathetic. But I can't stay there all the time and be a good parent. And I try not to "borrow" trouble or worry about the future...about things that may never happen or would not change by my worrying! I must trust God to see us through whatever difficulties we face in raising our kids...those related to adoption and those that are not. Elizabeth, thanks for the link to the other article by Claudia. I guess, by her definition, I would also consider myself anti-adoption! Thank you for doing what you do and for helping to educate us on the good, the bad, and the ugly side of adoption. Not every agency does that! That's why I think Abrazo has some of the best and most compassionate APs!
  12. Open Adoption

    (Cue the crickets chirping!!) Nothing makes me sadder than to think that my children will feel loss for the choices made on their behalf. Or to think that our love and our family are "not enough." And I don't like to read/hear about the negatives of adoption. I had no idea when I started this journey more than 13 years ago, that there are so many people who strongly feel that adoption should be done away with. But, I don't see that as a realistic option. In a perfect world, of course it would not be necessary, but as we all know, our world is far from perfect. While I definitely think there is lots of room for reform with adoption, it is still necessary for people who are not at a place where they are ready to parent (or parent another child). I would hope that the reasons are beyond financial. And I would hope that they have been given the support to consider all the options and resources. As far as the article goes, I think it's easy for anyone to think the grass is greener. Even my observation that I am sad sometimes that my son does not have the opportunity to "grow up with" his bio brother and sister is not rooted in reality. Because the reality is that even if he had not been adopted, he would most likely not have grown up with them. They are his birthfather's children, and most likely, if his birthmother had not placed, he would have stayed with her, and his bf would not even be in the picture. It's very possible, he has more opportunity now to have a relationship with them than if he had not been adopted. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I sometimes feel that when people (generally first parents or older adoptees) talk like adoption should be banished, they are looking at what "could have been" with rose colored glasses. Not sure if any of this is making sense...I'm just trying to process some of the "negative" side of adoption. For those who are PIW or enjoying those first sweet months with you new son/daughter, I don't want to be a downer. Honestly, I have seen very little, if any, negative effects of being adopted in either of my kids. They both seem happy and well-adjusted. Okay, I'm going to hit "Post" before I delete!
  13. Open Adoption

    I came across this article today (posted by a friend on FB). http://networkedblogs.com/R6h7o I'm still processing it, but was definitely struck by numbers one and three. I am FB friends with my son's older siblings. They are great kids (age 14 and 16), and they have a very tight bond. I do get sad sometimes that he is missing out on growing up with them. Does anyone else ever feel like this? On number 2, I thought it was interesting that the author's perception was that her adoptive mom got busy and neglected the relationship. This definitely may have been the case, but I know for me personally (and many of my friends who have adopted), it is the first parents who seem to step back from the relationship. I think we all know that Open adoption is not the "cure" for adoption loss, but that it is definitely a better choice than the closed adoptions of years past. Would love to hear others thoughts about this article.
  14. Baby Announcements 2013

    For everything there is a season...so glad your season of waiting is over, and your faith has become sight! Congratulations!
  15. Baby Announcements 2013

    Been waiting on pins and needles for the official announcement!! Congratulations Steven, Melissa, and Ollie on your newest family member. She is beautiful. I know Grand Mimi is proud too and ready to spoil her! Prayers being said for Amelia's first family who are a very special part of your family.
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